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There was an article that caught my eye about how my generation is becoming obsessed with being a "success story". That is certainly something I'm having to deal with at the moment, however one aspect of that article made me think about another aspect of life - finding the perfect partner.
My Dad is the business man. Management accountant, decent pay-cheque, nice house and nice car. I remember my Dad saying to me once that it was more important to be financially secure with assets and savings and I was shocked, I quickly snapped back with something along the lines of having a job or career you enjoy with people you enjoy in your life. I was 17, and nearly four years later I still believe what I said was true.
I used to think that people get married purely for the purpose of getting married, getting a mortgage and reproducing however over the past few years my perception has changed. Going from some fun flings to some serious relationships to absolute true love, I have concluded that the mortgage and the reproduction are only somethings that happen down the line. What about the love part? I'm talking some real conversation, some real companionship and some real fun.
Am I ridiculous for thinking of the qualities I'm looking for in a partner for the purpose of settling down at 20 years old? I hope not and I doubt it considering I know 18 year olds about have children.
So here's my checklist for my future partner.
- A conversationalist
My favourite date with a boyfriend consisted of this:
Me - "I'm bored. What do you want to do?"
Him - "Let's go somewhere."
Me - "Lets go to the beach."
We sat on the rocks at our local beach. We talked about everything from our exes, to our high school experiences, to people we knew, our families and everything in between. We laughed, he listened and spoke, I listened and spoke. We talked for literally hours, and didn't even notice the time had passed until it began to get darker and for the last hour, we cuddled and watched the sunset.
I want to be in a relationship with someone who I can talk to and who I want to talk to for hours on end and will never get bored of them.Credit: Tillie Sparkle - Shared passions
The last guy I was seeing was a tattooist who loved a band that I have such a great love and respect for.
He looked over some tattoo drawings I'd done and he'd give me his honest opinion, telling me how it would work as a tattoo and what I could possibly add. We'd talk about music (which is a great passion of mine) for hours and being in bands.
I want a partner who can appreciate my passions, have passions I can appreciate and can even show me some new things I can become passionate about. - A musician or music fan
Obv. I love music. I would need someone who was either a musician or a music fan. Ideally a guitarist/vocalist but I'm open to bassists, drummers and pianists.Credit: Jazmin Million - Must have facial hair
I have recently decided I like short beards or man stubble. As long as he's comfortable with his facial hair, I will be also. - Must have tats
Piercings are also a plus. - Must be smart!
I really respect someone who has some great world experience or has done some tertiary study. I love mature people (who know when to be serious and when to be silly!) who have really great opinions and are willing to openly discuss them. I love to learn new things so someone who's wise that I can respect will work perfectly.Credit: Love is the key - Strong features
I'm not shallow, but I'd like a looker. Not even going to beat around the bush. I wanna be able to look at my guy and feel like I'm the luckiest girl in the world and if he has the above features then I'm sure I will anyway. - Must love animals!
I want pets. So he must love them too. Especially little dogs along the lines of cairn terriers and tabby cats.My amazing pets: Jack the Cairn/Aussie Terrier Doggy and Missy the Tabby Cat - Mustn't be whipped
I don't think there's anything worse than a whipped guy. I love guys who have their own lives, want to hang with their friends and have their alone time so I don't feel bad about having time to myself and time with my girls. - Ambition
I want a guy who knows what he wants so I can support him. I want him to know what his dream is and to know how to get there if he wants it. I want him to share his ideas with me can to be truly passionate. - Must be able to be a child
I get excited over kiddy things. I would love to spend an afternoon making friendship bracelets and I want a disney tattoo. I want us to be able to talk about Pokemon with the same enthusiasm we did when we were 8 years old. I want us to be able to think soft toys are cute and think playing board games isn't lame. I want us to be able to play original playstation and get excited when we complete stages on crash bandicoot. I want us to go to theme parks and go on all the big roller-coasters and I want us to climb trees, go to children's playgrounds and play on the swings.
I want him to help me be young at heart because sometimes I need reminding that I'm young.Credit: CeNkPhOtO - Must be able to enjoy each other
I want us to be able to go out and have a drink, maybe a dance and socialise with friends but at the same time I want to be able to have a lazy rainy Sunday, were laze in bed until midday and listen to the rain falling on the roof, then get up and watch a DVD cuddled on the sofa in our duvet. I want to treasure every moment together.
I just want someone to share my life with. I'm hoping this isn't asking too much?
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